I’ve been on a hunt for a mentor for quite some time now. That little tidbit is actually quite surprising given I find it extremely hard to defer to someone else. In this post, we’ll talk about finding the right mentor for your business goals. Even though I haven’t found one yet, I still understand the importance of having a mentor. Through failed mentor/mentee relationships, I think I’ve figured out what works for me and I’d like to share them with you. It might save you some time in finding the right mentor for you and your business.
Importance of Having A Mentor
Really quickly, let’s discuss why having a mentor is important. For those of you who have been traversing the business world for a while, I’m sure you know why having a mentor can be invaluable to you and your business. But, for those who aren’t familiar with the concept of mentorship, having a mentor helps you navigate the road of entrepreneurship. This is crucial because, sometimes, you’re so immersed in the day-to-day operations of your business that you miss your blind spots. Mentors can watch out for those things you might have missed and things you don’t see. They can also help you focus in on the things that will truly move your business forward. Some don’t see how a mentor can be really helpful. Hence, understanding the importance of having a mentor is crucial.
The ONE Thing You Can’t Overlook
Just as important as finding a mentor is finding the right one. Very few things derail you more than a wrong mentor throwing around the wrong advice. You have to make sure they aren’t frauds and you have to make sure they’ve walked their talk.
But, perhaps, the most important factor is to make sure they can keep up with you.
Let me expound on that. If you know me personally, you’d know that I regret spending the time I spent in my last venture. I know we shouldn’t regret and regret is a waste of time, this, that, and the 3rd, but I can’t think of a better way to explain the feeling I get when I think how much of a waste of time that was. I’ve also mentioned that I find it hard to defer to someone else but I left out one thing: It’s that I’m a damn good follower when I think someone is worthy of being followed.
The problem with that is, as naïve and optimistic as I was, I tend to put them on a pedestal and I treated whatever they said as gold. That means whatever they said, I did. Like a puppet. Huge mistake.
That brings me to my next point.
Can they really keep up with you?
Let’s be real here. A leader leads. Period. That means they should be able to do what you’re doing.. and better. If you’re getting more results, more positive feedback, more things done, etc. than they are, you gotta find a better person to emulate. A leader cannot lead from the back. They should be ahead of you.
You also have to be careful of those trying to “tone down” your edges instead of sharpening them. Your edges are what gives you the edge. It’s like toning down your strengths to the level of your weaknesses. The only reason I can think why anyone would do that is because they’re afraid that you might just actually best them.
A huge giveaway is this: if you feel held back instead of empowered, walk away. You know your capabilities. Find someone who can run at your speed and take on your obstacle together.
No sense in waiting for a mentor to catch up to you when you should be the one catching up to them.
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