I’ve written multiple posts about having the courage to step out and follow your own path. I know many of you are well on your way or are already on journeys of your own choosing. I am also aware that some might be hesitating because they’re worried about what others might think. For some, having to fight off bad vibes might be too much to deal with, so they choose to not create waves.
Anytime we go against the grain, we risk ridicule, criticism, and well-intentioned people discouraging us from forging our own path. Sometimes they’re so loud, it’s like they’re protesting. However, just bare in mind that it most likely has nothing to do with your limitations; it’s their limitations being imposed on you.
But, perhaps, the biggest hindrance for some isn’t what people say outright. It’s the negative vibes they silently give off. At times, those are more toxic than people who voice out their objections because you don’t know where you stand. I used to spend some time wondering whether people were really supportive or if they were just being superficial. That took A LOT of mental energy and I started realizing it doesn’t matter.
Like, who gives a rat’s ass, you know? Superficial or not, their vibes don’t affect what I’m trying to accomplish. Here are some ways I fight off bad vibes:
Ways To Fight Off Bad Vibes
This is probably the simplest yet hardest thing to do on the list so we’ll put it first. It’s not really hard to just stop paying attention to the negativity. What’s challenging is what your mind tells you afterwards. That’s a lot harder to silence than just tuning out people or things that have negative energy. This brings us to our next point..
Develop Mental Toughness
Okay, so you were able to successfully tune out people. What you can’t tune out, though, are the aftereffects of hearing snide comments. This is where having “mental guard” helps. I’ve been asked multiple times how I let comments slide off or have it not affect me. My answer has always been the same: I just don’t think about it. The next question that follows is usually “How?”
I. Just. Don’t. Think. About. It.
Just like that.
I think it’s important to point out here that I’m not talking about constructive criticism. I’m talking about comments or people who use sarcasm to try to get under your skin. People who seem to be supportive on the surface but you can’t quite point out why it seems very fake. You just feel that it is.
For those, I analyze who it’s coming from, whether what they’re saying has merit, and whether or not it was said in good intention. My gut plays a huge factor in this. And, if I don’t trust the source.. I just flat out ignore it.
Change Environment and Find New People
I’ve spoken about the importance of having the right environment. I’ve heard this story once about a pot full of crabs. It goes something like this: There’s a pot full of crabs that are about to be cooked. One crab tries to get out of the pot. When it starts to make its way out, the other crabs in the pot grab ahold of it and pulls it back down.
Basically, the point of the story is to illustrate that some people just won’t be too happy when you get ahead. That’s okay. All you have to do is drop those friends and find better ones. Easier said than done, I know. But, trust me, being around other go-getters can do wonders for you and your business.
Same as “ignore it.” You need to develop thick skin when you’re pursuing your goals. I have this crazy balance of not caring at all about what other people think about me and really caring about what they have to say. I think it’s that I don’t care what they think about how I choose to live my life, but I do care about what people think about what I produce.
“Good enough” just won’t do. I don’t even want to be “great.” I want to be the best. That, I care highly about. If you’re highly conscious about doing your best at all times, then you won’t have to feel bad about deviating from the norm.
Lastly, be proud. Be proud of your work, your decisions, your hustle, and yourself. It’s usually the people who don’t have the guts to step out and stand out who are laughing at those who walk to the beat of their own drums.
If you know you’re doing the right thing and you got the support of people who can take you to the next level, don’t worry about the crabs in your life.
Fight off bad vibes. Show them what you’re all about. You never know, they might just end up inspired by you.